While you are reading this article, take a look around and soak in what you see. Perhaps you see a sea of faces, all unique, all with their own different journey. Each person you just looked at has their own individual course in life that led them to being where they are currently in this […]
While you are reading this article, take a look around and soak in what you see. Perhaps you see a sea of faces, all unique, all with their own different journey. Each person you just looked at has their own individual course in life that led them to being where they are currently in this moment and time. At Christian Brothers especially, there is a melting pot of journeys that all lead to each and every individual being here. There’s so many unique stories to get larger insight about, but perhaps one of the most interesting stories is Etta Lauchland’s (‘20). She clued the Talon in on her liberating adoption story and how that has shaped her into the person she is today.
Etta explains that she doesn’t remember ever feeling like an outsider in her family. In fact, she vaguely remembers when she was four or five years old when she found out that she was adopted.
“I just remember asking where a doll was from and then asking more questions. My parents eventually told me the doll was from Russia where I was from too. It wasn’t a huge deal since they were open with me and told me so young.”
Her parents told her that she was born in Ivanovo, Russia, a small gypsy town. They told her that they became very familiar with that town because they had to frequently traveled there in order to complete the adoption process.
“They said that adopting a child is a tough process, but especially if you’re looking to adopt out of country, it can seem almost impossible,” Etta says.
To get a further insight on what the adoption process is like through the eyes of the parents, the Talon talked to science teacher Mrs. Chris Thayer. She went through the adoption process when she adopted her two children, Ron and Monica. The best option for her family was to stick to domestic adoption as opposed to international.
“With our first we considered international, but we ended up getting my son Ron before we ever got farther along with the whole international thing,” she says.
Mrs. Thayer’s oldest, Ron, would’ve been a toddler during the time she was in the process adopting her second child, so the convoluted process that international adoption brings would’ve been hard to do.
“With my second child, an international adoption involves relocating to the other country, often for an extended period of time,” she says. “[International adoption] just couldn’t work due to my other child, a toddler at the time, having to stay home with his mom gone for so long. So we stuck with domestic adoption.”
Despite how long the process can be to adopt, Mrs. Thayer doesn’t regret a thing. She has a strong bond with her two children and is grateful to have them in her life.
“Adoption is a great way to build a family, it’s amazing,” she says. “It’s a huge responsibility there’s a lot of preparation but totally worth it.”
Mrs. Thayer loves the idea of adoption and wishes more women choose putting their children up for adoption as opposed to other options.
“I wish that more babies were given the chance to be put up for adoption as opposed to abortion.”
Etta seconds that as well and acknowledges that she is incredibly lucky to be living the life she is living now as opposed to what other life she could be living right now.
“If I had stayed in Russia, I would most likely be homeless right now and not have any parents. By getting adopted, I’ve been able to have so many opportunities I would have never had. I get to attend a nice school, travel the world, and pursue a sport that I love. I consider myself incredibly lucky.”
People like Mrs. Thayer, Etta’s parents, and many more who choose adoption as a way to build a family help children by providing them a brighter future. Etta accepted that adoption is just a part of who she is and will continue to leave her mark wherever she goes.
“I’m not letting adoption define me, I’ll let it motivate me. It’s a nice reminder to keep on going.”
With that reminder in place, Etta will definitely go far in life. She wants to continue to break barriers and see the world and hopes to one day adopt her children too. Adoption is the gift that keeps on giving after all.