How Your Phone Is Destroying Your Life

Losing your phone — it’s one of the most feared and scary things that could ever happen to a person in the modern world. My cousin Andy was recently telling me about how at a recent function he lost his phone and had to search for two hours before he somehow found the person who […]

Losing your phone — it’s one of the most feared and scary things that could ever happen to a person in the modern world. My cousin Andy was recently telling me about how at a recent function he lost his phone and had to search for two hours before he somehow found the person who had recovered it.

“I would have lost all my contacts, all my photos, and my main form of communication with the world,” he said of the terror. “I couldn’t live without that phone”.

This experience provides a small preview into how much our world now revolves around our phones. In today’s society, we are so reliant on our devices that they’ve effectively taken over our lives. We rely on them for communication, entertainment, and transportation just to name a few. If you honestly think that you couldn’t live without your phone, think again.

Let’s imagine a day at school without your phone or any electronic device. First off, you walk into A set and sit down in Mrs. Mary Alice Spinelli’s ‘99 religion class thinking this could be a good day because you finally got a decent night’s sleep. Five minutes into class, however, Mrs. Spinelli makes a last call for anyone who didn’t turn in their homework on Schoology. You realize you didn’t and dig around your backup for a minute until you realize that you have a problem — you don’t have your iPad or your phone.

A shiver of fear runs down your spine as you realize that you are absolutely going to be screwed today, and this is not going to be a good day. After a depressing A set in which your already struggling religion grade drops another percent, you stroll into B set. In B set, you actually have to take notes because you can’t just play games on your iPad and text your friends throughout another history lecture.

After a break where you actually have a decent conversation with some friends because you don’t have one eye on your phone throughout break, the same problems from the first two sets continue. Because you couldn’t get the pictures of the math homework for C set, you are going to have another zero in the ol’ grade book. The depressing day continues. Fast forward through four more sets with the same problems, including an electronic test in Mr. Eckel’s class that you couldn’t take, and we’ve finally hit the end of the day. But with that comes more problems, as you keep your carpool waiting, because without a phone you didn’t know what time your ride arrived after school.

I think you get the point — we cannot live without our phones in the modern world. Sure, phones do great things for us. They help to connect us, make learning things and researching exponentially easier, and save us from countless hassles daily. But for every positive there are far more negatives that should encourage us to try and disconnect from our phones a little bit. For example, when your phone dies and you’re stuck in downtown Sacramento alone — without a car, most of us would struggle with this situation because we are so dependent on our phones for everything.

Your phone enables you to live without relying on strangers and not ever break out of our bubble of comfort. We too often can hide behind our phone, hiding inside of our bubble because we aren’t forced to leave it and interact with people around us. Instead of maybe striking up a conversation with the Uber driver or the person sitting next to us on the train, it’s now more common to plug in some headphones and zone out.

Each time we do this we miss an opportunity to create a new relationship and practice the conversation skills that many of us lack. Instead of talking to a girl that you find attractive, nowadays it’s more common to try and find out her name and follow her randomly on social media, pray for a follow back, and then slide in the DMs, which if you’re lucky could end up in quick Snapchat conversation. Synclaire Warren (‘18) especially agrees that the DMs are not the way to go.

“I much rather meet someone in person and usually when guys DM me it’s always in a weird way,” she says. “I’ve never had a real relationship start through a DM.” 

It would be so much more effective to be able to go up to someone and strike up a conversation, which has a much better chance at creating a friendship than going through the interweb. Being able to begin a conversation with a stranger is a really valuable tool in life and can be especially admirable. Regan Lambeth (‘18) admires anyone with this skill.

“Anyone that comes up and starts a conversation with me I think is courageous,” she says. “I really like talking to because they’re [brave] and usually fun to talk to.”

Try something new this week, put the phone down and connect with the people around you — I guarantee that you will enjoy it. You won’t be distracted by the mostly meaningless and pointless information that you are distracted by on our phone everyday. Think about all the experiences and opportunities you’ve missed because your phone distracted you and you were busy checking it. By making a conscious effort to put the phone down and embrace the present, you will reap all sorts of benefits. From making new friends to strengthening existing relationships and bolstering you social skills, the possibilities are endless.

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